Getting Pregnant

Getting on towards six months after we’d started trying to get pregnant, we were starting to wonder what was going on. And that’s when the wave of pregnancies began around us.

Many colleagues of mine started announcing pregnancies or  going on maternity leave. Since a large proportion of my colleagues are women in their 30s, this is probably to be expected and not statistically unusual, but what bugged me is that most of them had got pregnant almost immediately after they’d started trying, in some cases before, and in one case, when they weren’t trying at all.

Friends and my husband’s colleagues started announcing pregnancies too. Same as above: nobody else had to wait long.

And then, with the topic so obviously in the air, everyone started asking us when we were going to have kids. At this stage, I was still evasive, because I had an easy and believable answer - “We’ve only been married a year, so give us a break!” Of course, inside I was wondering the same thing and didn’t feel too happy after being grilled about this topic week after week.

What I’ve learnt, at least, is not to ask people this question, not unless I really know them well and can talk about it properly. And if you’re reading this I want you to learn this too: don’t ask random couples when they’re going to have kids. You never know what’s going on behind the scenes and how much you might upset them. Even if you mean it well, it’s just not worth the risk.

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