Getting Pregnant

On my first date with my husband, he tricked me. And it was all about babies.

See, he’d liked me for a long time. I knew him, but as part of a big group, and he seemed like a nice guy but kind of quiet. I’d never had a private conversation with him. He’d been busily having private conversations about me with other people. Storing up information like a detective, he soon knew all the right buttons to push.

When we finally got onto our first date – it took a few months – he suddenly blossomed into this talkative guy, away from the crowds of the group. And then, subtly, in the middle of an ordinary conversation, he dropped the topic of having children into the room, and I fell for him.

He knew I was ready to settle down and have kids. And he was too, it wasn’t a lie. It’s just not usually something you’d mention on a first date – unless you knew the other person felt the same. Of course, I didn’t know he’d been finding this stuff out behind the scenes until much later. So his strategy was very effective and eight months later, we were married.

A few months later than that, I guess about a year after we’d first really got together, we decided I would stop taking the pill and we’d try to get pregnant. I was 30 years old at the time. We had a couple of friends who’d recently had children, but not a lot of knowledge about conception. We both had the idea that after coming off the pill – I’d been taking it pretty much non-stop for 12 years by then – it might take a few months for by body to return to normal. A lot of doctors absolutely disagree with this, but we didn’t know that at the time, so we weren’t expecting to fall pregnant immediately.

Knowing I wasn’t on the pill anymore made our sex life quite exciting. At any second, it could be the magical moment when we’d be starting our future family. And although my period kept arriving, reasonably regularly, for the first three or four months, we weren’t put off. We knew that sooner or later we’d end up with a positive test and a screaming baby.

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